Every group of friends is cursed with it and there doesn’t seem to be any escape from it no matter how old, what social class, or what race you are. Drama is always circulating. Drama can rip apart friend groups and cause those who were once best friends to become sworn enemies through a couple of texts and posts. “He said” “She said” are words girls hear on a daily basis and believe. If it’s gossip it has to be true, right?
After dealing with a lot of friend drama myself, I can tell you that believing what everyone says to be true isn’t the way to go. Not everyone is honest.
Starting drama and spreading rumors is easy, but stopping the drama and rumors can seem to be impossible. I assure you drama isn’t impossible to deal with, but it certainly requires work as any friendship should. Here are a few steps to help you deal with friend drama.
Check Your Sources
Don’t immediately believe everything you hear. Make sure that the person who is informing you is a trustworthy and reliable source before making your move.
Don’t Spread the Drama Around
Telling your closest friends is often the first thing we want to do when dealing with drama, but that can be the worst decision to make. Instead, keep it to yourself so no one has to choose sides and so the drama stays between you and the other person.
Confront the Problem
Confronting the problem is often the hardest step because you don’t want to create another problem, or worse lose a friend. Confrontation doesn’t always have to be scary and you don’t have to be rude about it. Simply ask the person, “Hey, I heard that you said _____ about me and I was wondering if that’s true.” If your friend says she didn’t say it and is honest about it, then you and your friend can move forward with your relationship. You can say something like, “I didn’t think you’d say something like that about me, but I just wanted to verify it.”
However, if they lie and you have proof, then you could say, “That’s weird because I have some screenshots of you saying that about me and I really don’t want my friend talking bad about me behind my back.” If they own up to it and apologize then you’re in the clear and you can forgive and forget which is always the best decision. If they don’t own up to their mistake then simply end the conversation with an “okay.” There’s no reason to make the situation worse by getting angry and starting a huge fight. Instead, maintain your composure and move on with your life. In the future, it may be best to keep your distance because of this violation of trust.
Keep in mind that, drama should never be blown out of proportion and most of the time it isn’t worth losing a friend over. I hope these tips can help you the next time you have drama in your life.
Have a lovely day,